Let’s face it, everyone has their reservations when it comes to sex and now here I am talking about kinky sex. Growing up around strong Hispanic women it’s not such an easy thing to admit to the things I like and the way I am. Being submissive to a man is something that is frowned upon in my culture. It shows weakness. Well…
I am a submissive.
Sorry mom!
To me, there is no greater thing than to submit to a man. Or woman! Being the reason for someone’s pleasure and happiness, there is just nothing like it! Believe me, I’ve looked. Submitting is something I have always done in all my previous relationships. At first I thought it was just normal behavior, my partner is superior to me in every way.
No brainer.
Right?
Of course all these questions came to me once I figured I was probably a weirdo who liked to call their SO Master. Is this safe? Am I some sort of sociopath for having rape-fantasies? What kind of woman in her 20s fantasizes about having sex with multiple strangers?
It’s safe mom, I swear!
Safe, sane, and consensual.
It’s what all the AD’s advertise anyways. You see the warnings on every page you encounter with a BDSM theme.
“Beware of the fakes!”
“Don’t let anyone make you call you Sir/Master/Daddy right away!”
Some of it is common sense. Come on people, even I know you can’t just submit to everyone. Go with your gut feeling! I should listen to my own advice since the little experience I do have so far is cringe worthy. Really, nobody should go through what I’ve been through. But in light of it all, I had been extremely sexually frustrated and I am not ashamed to admit I cant make decisions while I’m horny. Which is bad since I’m always constantly horny!
My advice, release the tension before meeting with anyone. You won’t be so inclined to have a happy ending sort of thing happening at the end of the meet up!
And I guess I have been rambling nonsense, but I have no real experience. I am unreasonably shy to even approach people in the “vanilla” world much less this one. Maybe its the books painting a pretty picture of what it really is like, but this want, this need to be owned by someone is not something I can so easily shake.
Maybe I’m way over my head and should quit while I’m ahead. Either way I have no idea what I am doing…
Laters baby!
-Princess Mila
Princess Mila 
It is hard to come out with your desire to submit to someone but it’s easier in a community that supports submission.
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It can be very tempting to go straight to the fun part after a first-time meeting. But in my 17 years in this lifestyle, I’ve found it almost never ends well. Even when the play is great, oftentimes I never hear from them again. Having the patience and perspective to wait a few days makes a big difference. If giving yourself some physical satisfaction beforehand makes it easier, then by all means, do what works! I recommend simply making it a policy that first meetings are just that – meetings. Nothing else. Anyone who isn’t willing to do that isn’t worth your time.
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This is great, thank you! Trust me, never again will I let something like that happen!
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